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What do do with infidelity?
E Soto asked:
I recently caught my husband sending IMs to some girl. There was nothing wrong with the IMs but it still bothered me. He got histerical and mad and I kicked him out. Then a few days later I decided to go through his phone records and found hundreds of text messages to this one number and IMs from his phone all day long even while he was home. I called the number and it was some girl. It was not the same girl he was IMing. I confronted him about it and he broke down crying. Claiming he was sorry. He says he met her on Yahoo and met up with her twice. He admitted to sleeping with her twice. I am currently 4 1/2 months pregnant with our second child. We have been married for 6 years and we are constantly arguing. For the past 6 months our relationship was getting better, at least i thought. This pregnancy has been horrible for me I have been unable to eat and am constantly fatigued. I have lost 25 lbs since October. He cheated on me in Nov and December, the worst two months in my pregnancy. I recently started feeling better just to find out he has been sleeping around. His excuse is that since we are constantly fighting because he doesnt try to work on our marriage he felt like he needed to owe me something in order to try and be a better man. So in other words he wanted to cheat on me to feel guilty and try and work it out. He says he loves me and doesnt want to lose me but his actions do not make sense. How can you love someone and put them through this? Especially while pregnant with a child we both planned since our relationship was getting better. I really love him and he is a great father he just hasnt been the best husband. He is not abusive and has never hit me. I never expected this from him. He would always tell me how much he loved me and the girl claims that he always made it very clear that he loved me. He has just been really boring. I am 24 years old and he is 25 and he doesnt like doing anything but watch sports. I dont know what to do. He has been better these past few days but i dont know how long it will last. Is it just a little act to get me to stay with him.
I recently caught my husband sending IMs to some girl. There was nothing wrong with the IMs but it still bothered me. He got histerical and mad and I kicked him out. Then a few days later I decided to go through his phone records and found hundreds of text messages to this one number and IMs from his phone all day long even while he was home. I called the number and it was some girl. It was not the same girl he was IMing. I confronted him about it and he broke down crying. Claiming he was sorry. He says he met her on Yahoo and met up with her twice. He admitted to sleeping with her twice. I am currently 4 1/2 months pregnant with our second child. We have been married for 6 years and we are constantly arguing. For the past 6 months our relationship was getting better, at least i thought. This pregnancy has been horrible for me I have been unable to eat and am constantly fatigued. I have lost 25 lbs since October. He cheated on me in Nov and December, the worst two months in my pregnancy. I recently started feeling better just to find out he has been sleeping around. His excuse is that since we are constantly fighting because he doesnt try to work on our marriage he felt like he needed to owe me something in order to try and be a better man. So in other words he wanted to cheat on me to feel guilty and try and work it out. He says he loves me and doesnt want to lose me but his actions do not make sense. How can you love someone and put them through this? Especially while pregnant with a child we both planned since our relationship was getting better. I really love him and he is a great father he just hasnt been the best husband. He is not abusive and has never hit me. I never expected this from him. He would always tell me how much he loved me and the girl claims that he always made it very clear that he loved me. He has just been really boring. I am 24 years old and he is 25 and he doesnt like doing anything but watch sports. I dont know what to do. He has been better these past few days but i dont know how long it will last. Is it just a little act to get me to stay with him.
If he is cheating and you are getting his phone records which month?
navywife asked:
I found out that a local PI can get me his cell records with incoming and outgoing calls for less than I can hire him to follow him around. He left in August, got caught spending the night at a girls house in September, went out of town in October (the same time this girl just happened to go out of town too), November was very distant and December very depressed, January he supposedly has taken on a part time job and due to his feeling rushed will not be able to make it to his Sunday child visitation. I want to only pay for one month of phone records as it is $200, so which month would you want to see?
I found out that a local PI can get me his cell records with incoming and outgoing calls for less than I can hire him to follow him around. He left in August, got caught spending the night at a girls house in September, went out of town in October (the same time this girl just happened to go out of town too), November was very distant and December very depressed, January he supposedly has taken on a part time job and due to his feeling rushed will not be able to make it to his Sunday child visitation. I want to only pay for one month of phone records as it is $200, so which month would you want to see?
Thanks a bunch
Amy
Am I A Fool?
Rob M asked:
Well I recently deployed to Iraq. My longtime GF and I were planning on marriage. In the back of my mind I believe that she is cheating on me. Phone records, and that good ole message archive on yahoo messenger almost confirms it. I just want to know how I would go about confronting her. Its kind of funny how I can brave my life everyday with bullets and bombs. Yet when it comes to confronting her (it seems so simple) its just so hard to do.
Well I recently deployed to Iraq. My longtime GF and I were planning on marriage. In the back of my mind I believe that she is cheating on me. Phone records, and that good ole message archive on yahoo messenger almost confirms it. I just want to know how I would go about confronting her. Its kind of funny how I can brave my life everyday with bullets and bombs. Yet when it comes to confronting her (it seems so simple) its just so hard to do.
Is it cheating to talk to an old lover?
igotplayedonce asked:
I stumbled onto my wife having a few mens phone numbers on her cell phone not long ago. I was trading my old cell phone with her and when I asked about the numbers, she started deleting them on the spot! I asked her if she was deleting something and she told me a bald faced lie “NO”.
I stumbled onto my wife having a few mens phone numbers on her cell phone not long ago. I was trading my old cell phone with her and when I asked about the numbers, she started deleting them on the spot! I asked her if she was deleting something and she told me a bald faced lie “NO”.
I then figured out the names were of old boyfriends. When I asked her why she lied she told me because I would get mad. I was livid! The fact she lied to me and broke a promise we made we would not longer speak to old lovers.
I went on a mission, I found her old phone records and found out she had been talking to two of them for at least a year. I down loaded the records and found she was calling them constantly and more than they called her. I told her she was having a non-sexual intimate relationship with these two and it had to stop.
She then lied yet again and told me she stopped. I’ve asked what are they doing that I’m not. Please help me.
I just found out they have been talking for 4yr
wife texting coworker, am I wrong to think something going on? long story?
donz80 asked:
I have been married for 24 years to a good loving wife,she has high morals and keeps the house running in order with kids and family functions. is well liked by my family and such, a lot of interaction.we have a good *** life and thought a good Communication. I traveled a lot for the last 5 years and was away 3-4 days at a time.(work) we had cell phones and could talk when needed.she had texting on hers, but I did not as I did not want or need it.I keep things short and don’t like to talk on the phone. Now here is the problem! I was sleeping and had a dream, come to me, saying check her phone!! I never had any reason to do it before,NOTHING!!! So I got up the next morning and checked! I was shocked as there was 2 texts from the night before saying” we are over with!! why are you so mad!! I was SHOCKED!! So I went upstairs where she was in a deep sleep!! asked ***!! WHATS GOING ON! She said they had a fight over paper work!! and that there friendship was over!! still half a sleep and realized what I was asking and said, she would never do anything like that to me!! so I went to work (1 shift me) (2 shift her).2 days later I got the phone records printed out and found out there was 300 to 700 texts a month(the last 3 i checked)! I flipped out and call the guy and meet him and both his wife and my wife and tell me what was going on??(with in a hour) he said nothing but work and small stuff chats) His wife was ok with it and said she texts her coworkers all the time.so I got home and looked on our computer and found 2 webs sites from where he went hunting 3 states away??? my wife said she just looked at them because he had pictures of him on them.?? (She did not express intrest when I hunted many years ago) my heart says nothing went on , but my head is playing games? I gave up a 100000 a year job because she did not want to move and leave her 35000 job. was it because of him? We have a 400,000 house with 4 cars 3 kids,a good family (vacations) all the texting was thru out the whole day and evening,, so there was not much room for anyhookups, and if texting why not be there? I have to say that I knew she text this guy, but all the time?She only text our kids once a day. she said she did not realize how much text was going on as she never had a printout bill.she changed phone numbers and carriers and said she was sorry it got that way. she does not have many friends and was a family person and that I trusted and never had anything before this to think about.I love her, but can not get this out of my head. This guy I have known(knew for 9 years) and never thought of him as being a threat. He is nothing to look at.(fat) the texting she said was going on for 2 plus years.did she need a friend or what! We aways talked, but the shift differance made it hard to go out regularly. what do you think?
she did take the texting off,and added the song I love you twice as much tommorrow as I did today for my ring.as for snooping, I never did it before as I never had any reason to. it came to me in a dream!!(believe it) the 100000 a year job was tough to give up, but I just bit my lip and was ready to try something new after 25 years
I have been married for 24 years to a good loving wife,she has high morals and keeps the house running in order with kids and family functions. is well liked by my family and such, a lot of interaction.we have a good *** life and thought a good Communication. I traveled a lot for the last 5 years and was away 3-4 days at a time.(work) we had cell phones and could talk when needed.she had texting on hers, but I did not as I did not want or need it.I keep things short and don’t like to talk on the phone. Now here is the problem! I was sleeping and had a dream, come to me, saying check her phone!! I never had any reason to do it before,NOTHING!!! So I got up the next morning and checked! I was shocked as there was 2 texts from the night before saying” we are over with!! why are you so mad!! I was SHOCKED!! So I went upstairs where she was in a deep sleep!! asked ***!! WHATS GOING ON! She said they had a fight over paper work!! and that there friendship was over!! still half a sleep and realized what I was asking and said, she would never do anything like that to me!! so I went to work (1 shift me) (2 shift her).2 days later I got the phone records printed out and found out there was 300 to 700 texts a month(the last 3 i checked)! I flipped out and call the guy and meet him and both his wife and my wife and tell me what was going on??(with in a hour) he said nothing but work and small stuff chats) His wife was ok with it and said she texts her coworkers all the time.so I got home and looked on our computer and found 2 webs sites from where he went hunting 3 states away??? my wife said she just looked at them because he had pictures of him on them.?? (She did not express intrest when I hunted many years ago) my heart says nothing went on , but my head is playing games? I gave up a 100000 a year job because she did not want to move and leave her 35000 job. was it because of him? We have a 400,000 house with 4 cars 3 kids,a good family (vacations) all the texting was thru out the whole day and evening,, so there was not much room for anyhookups, and if texting why not be there? I have to say that I knew she text this guy, but all the time?She only text our kids once a day. she said she did not realize how much text was going on as she never had a printout bill.she changed phone numbers and carriers and said she was sorry it got that way. she does not have many friends and was a family person and that I trusted and never had anything before this to think about.I love her, but can not get this out of my head. This guy I have known(knew for 9 years) and never thought of him as being a threat. He is nothing to look at.(fat) the texting she said was going on for 2 plus years.did she need a friend or what! We aways talked, but the shift differance made it hard to go out regularly. what do you think?
she did take the texting off,and added the song I love you twice as much tommorrow as I did today for my ring.as for snooping, I never did it before as I never had any reason to. it came to me in a dream!!(believe it) the 100000 a year job was tough to give up, but I just bit my lip and was ready to try something new after 25 years
Marriend men having female friends’ numbers in cell phone?
anyaha04 asked:
Is there anything wrong with a married man having females phones numbers in cell phone? What about if the wife do not know any of them, but he call and text the females often? Also is it ok that he delete EVERYTHING(texts and numbers) b4 he get home?
BTW she found out about the numbers and texts because she had to get information about the account.
She told me she has not said anything to him, but this is not the first time it has happen. In the past he has done the same thing and he said he would try to change but it has started up again.
Is there anything wrong with a married man having females phones numbers in cell phone? What about if the wife do not know any of them, but he call and text the females often? Also is it ok that he delete EVERYTHING(texts and numbers) b4 he get home?
BTW she found out about the numbers and texts because she had to get information about the account.
She told me she has not said anything to him, but this is not the first time it has happen. In the past he has done the same thing and he said he would try to change but it has started up again.
Prostitutes phone numbers on my husbands call records? Help I need your opinion?
Katherine asked:
Please help, want to know your opinion. because this happened awhile ago & it still bugs me. I came home and my intuition said something wasnt right. So I went on the net and looked up search history. Found the word ‘prostitites’. I then checked the call history on his mobile & found the same numbers. About 6 different ones. The calls only lasted for 3-4 seconds. I called some numbers & it went straight to the *********** answering machine. Is it possible he made arrangements in that short period? I was away at the time the calls were made. When I asked him about it he denied it at first. He then said he was drunk and was just curious to see “how much” services would cost. I was really upset & threatend to leave. Somehow he won me back by crying & telling me he was stupid, made a mistake, didnt arrange anything and never talked to anyone & of course that he loves me very much. What are the chances he did something behind my back or is this just male curiosity whilst drunk?
Oh so confused! I want to be a good person by not making false judgement but at the same time I dont want to be a dummy & get walked all over….
Please help, want to know your opinion. because this happened awhile ago & it still bugs me. I came home and my intuition said something wasnt right. So I went on the net and looked up search history. Found the word ‘prostitites’. I then checked the call history on his mobile & found the same numbers. About 6 different ones. The calls only lasted for 3-4 seconds. I called some numbers & it went straight to the *********** answering machine. Is it possible he made arrangements in that short period? I was away at the time the calls were made. When I asked him about it he denied it at first. He then said he was drunk and was just curious to see “how much” services would cost. I was really upset & threatend to leave. Somehow he won me back by crying & telling me he was stupid, made a mistake, didnt arrange anything and never talked to anyone & of course that he loves me very much. What are the chances he did something behind my back or is this just male curiosity whilst drunk?
Oh so confused! I want to be a good person by not making false judgement but at the same time I dont want to be a dummy & get walked all over….
